Therapy and Social-Emotional Skill Building for Adults, Teens and Tweens

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Individual Counseling for Adults

In the context of the counselor-client partnership, we work together to help you gain a better understanding of your symptoms, thoughts and behaviors, their origins and functions, and the ways in which you are responding to internal and external barriers. From a place of greater self-awareness, we can assist you with expanding your coping strategies and improving your relationships—with yourself, and with others.

Anchored in cognitive-behavioral therapy, our work together can involve taking a close look at your self-talk, the internal dialogue we all have when we are thinking. If we identify a supportive internal dialogue, we can zero in on the strengths and traits you possess and can draw upon at times when you need to tap into your resiliency. If we identify negative self-talk, we can help you to become aware of your thought patterns, explore their origins, and begin to develop a more realistic and self-supportive set of messages.

We can also work together to expand your toolkit of coping skills with an emphasis on mindfulness. Becoming more mindful can allow you to make more intentional choices, reduce impulsive thoughts or actions, get to know yourself better, and improve your ability to relax.

Some common concerns that bring adults to counseling include:

  • stress management
  • symptoms of depression and anxiety
  • work/life balance
  • relationship concerns
  • life cycle transitions
  • loss and grief
  • self concept/self esteem
  • somatic concerns
  • personal growth
  • parenting issues
  • existential and identity questions
Individual Counseling for Teens

Filling in the gap between family and peer support, individual counseling for adolescents often involves a focus on relationships with self and others. Many teens are challenged as they work toward a healthy self-concept, leaving them at higher risk for depression, anxiety, unhealthy relationships, substance abuse, academic decline, suicidal thoughts and self-injurious behaviors.

Our work together can involve developing a better understanding of yourself and your values and where it becomes challenging to live out those values in the world. It can also involve a strengthening of the reflection and communication skills necessary to navigate relationships with parents, friends, and other important individuals in your life.
Some common concerns that bring teens to counseling include:

  • anxiety and social anxiety
  • depression
  • school and academic pressures
  • relationship concerns
  • loneliness
  • navigating life online
  • emerging sexual development
  • risk-taking behaviors
  • body image
Individual Counseling for Tweens

Growing independence, a greater focus on peer dynamics, the beginnings of puberty and expanded cognitive abilities are common changes experienced during later childhood. The arrival of the ability to be self-reflective leads to a multitude of comparative questions and insecurities about fitting in with and measuring up to peers. Individual counseling with tweens often involves taking a closer look at the “language” of emotions and behaviors—if we look at feelings and actions as a foreign language, we can consider what you might be trying to communicate to yourself and others and where those messages are getting lost in translation.

Some common concerns that bring tweens to counseling include:

  • regulating big feelings
  • navigating peer relationships
  • social hierarchies and cliques
  • body self-consciousness
  • interpreting the messages of popular culture
  • disorganization
  • worries
  • sadness and moodiness
  • self-concept
Social Emotional Learning

Social-emotional learning is the process through which individuals take in and apply information, skills, and mindsets that contribute to:

  • healthy identity development
  • emotional management
  • achievement of individual and group goals
  • feeling and demonstrating empathy
  • developing and sustaining healthy relationships
  • responsible and caring decision-making

*The Collaborative for Academic, Social and Emotional Learning

Social-emotional learning IS intentional living in action. It involves the overt identification and teaching of skills to facilitate self-understanding, the management of emotions and behaviors, awareness of social norms, communication and relationship skills, and the process of making thoughtful and responsible decisions. Too often, these skills and mindsets are overlooked or left to chance. If an individual is never taught how to identify or express emotions, or how to look at a situation from another person's perspective, it's quite likely that these skills will be un- or underdeveloped. Children are explicitly taught mathematical computation and phonics; so too should we intentionally teach these essential intrapersonal and interpersonal skills to best prepare all of us to interact successfully and thoughtfully with others.

And, if we have only recently begun to teach SEL skills to children, it's clear that most adults have gaps in their own social-emotional education. Thus, SEL serves as a core principle informing the counseling services at Intentional Living, delivered through individual and group counseling, and class or workshop modalities for adults, teens and tweens. Upcoming SEL groups and workshops at Intentional Living will be posted here. Check the Collaborations page for SEL groups, workshops, classes, and camps offered within other programs and organizations in and around the Rochester area.